Apparantness

Two things occurred to me just now that may seem to most people to go without saying….though usually (but not always) things that go without saying are dangerous and should be looked over with great scrutiny…..

1. Love and adoration are not the same thing.

2. Communication is a two way street internally and externally.

To explain….When you fall into a position that seems too good to be true…beware! It may in fact be as it seems. However, the apparentness of such things must be investigated either way. Too much is often at stake to just accept that a thing is what it claims to be. And in this we can see the double-two-way-streetness of communication: if a person tells you that they feel a way for you, they must say it to you in such a way that you feel they mean it and that you understand it…..but they must also have an understanding of how they feel about what they are saying…and where it comes from inside of themselves. I suppose it boils down to trusting the source…..does this person display a complex understanding of their internal workings and thought patterns? Is there a great gap between what they say and how they portray themselves?

And now here is the difference between love and adoration: someone says they love you….but it is clear from their actions that they do not love themselves. In fact they adore you: that thing that stands in for love when one has not learned to be sufficiently open and trusting of themselves and in turn others. That blind thing built only from variegated emotional bits that do not form a coherent whole. Adoration is love without thought.

The apparentness of a thing and its truth can be different. And the more obvious a thing is, usually, the more reason to question it.

But you might say of someone who adores another, “It is so apparent that they are starry-eyed….filled with love!”

Perhaps not.

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About Memri

Attempting redefinition!
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